| Behaviour problem | Possible meaning | Do not | Do |
| Hurts other children/span> | Troubled feelings, anger | Punish or hurt him. Make him feel ‘bad’, act angry | Separate quietly the other |
Destroys | Feelings of helplessness, Jealousy, Boredom. Wanting | Scold, yell, shout, tell him he is | Remove destroyable things from the |
Uses | Trying something new. A joke, imitation, getting | Get excited. Feel embarrassed or | Relax, understand what it means. |
Does | Too young or too little. Need for experience in owning | Snatch from him scold or hurt him. | Helping to share and like it. Be |
Sucks | Need for sucking. Need for loving, cuddling, assurance | Force or restrain. Punish or | Provide sucking satisfaction. Give |
Wets | He is not ready for training yet. Too early to effort | Make an issue. Threaten, shame or | Accept it and the child as |
Demands | Feels let out, insecure, unloved. Boredom. Interest in | Scold or punish. Ignore or isolate | Give him a flair measure of attention. |
Has | Previous painful experiences. Strangeness. Need for his | Force or reason the child out of | Reassure and comfort him. Make the |
Steals | Ignorance of property rights. Unsatisfied needs and | Make hem feel bad. Scold or shame. | Let him own things and get a sense |
Tells | Fear of punishment, exaggeration, imagination, imitation, | Preach or prophesy. Punish or | Relax and try to understand. Give |
Gets | Curiosity, interest, not sleepy, attention seeking. | Scold or punish, threaten. Reward | Make going to bed a happy |
Refuses | He is not hungry. Dislikes particular food. Feels unwell. | Force. Make a scene. Punish. | Be casual and calm. It will not |
Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Behaviour Problems in Children
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
Nice poem
Around the corner I have a friend,
In this great city that has no end,
Yet the days go by and weeks rush on,
And before I know it, a year is gone.
And I never see my old friend face,
For life is a swift and terrible race,
He knows I like him just as well,
As in the days when I rang his bell.
And he rang mine but we were younger then,
And now we are busy, tired men.
Tired of playing a foolish game,
Tired of trying to make a name.
"Tomorrow" I say! "I will call on …….
Just to show that I'm thinking of him."
But tomorrow comes and tomorrow goes,
And distance between us grows and grows.
Around the corner, yet miles away,
"Here's a telegram sir," "….. died today."
And that's what we get and deserve in the end.
Around the corner, a vanished friend.
Remember to always say what you mean.
If you love someone, tell them.
Don't be afraid to express yourself.
Reach out and tell someone what they mean to you.
Because when you decide that it is the right time it might
be too late.
Seize the day. Never have regrets.
And most importantly, stay close to your friend
for they have helped
make you the person that you are today.
In this great city that has no end,
Yet the days go by and weeks rush on,
And before I know it, a year is gone.
And I never see my old friend face,
For life is a swift and terrible race,
He knows I like him just as well,
As in the days when I rang his bell.
And he rang mine but we were younger then,
And now we are busy, tired men.
Tired of playing a foolish game,
Tired of trying to make a name.
"Tomorrow" I say! "I will call on …….
Just to show that I'm thinking of him."
But tomorrow comes and tomorrow goes,
And distance between us grows and grows.
Around the corner, yet miles away,
"Here's a telegram sir," "….. died today."
And that's what we get and deserve in the end.
Around the corner, a vanished friend.
Remember to always say what you mean.
If you love someone, tell them.
Don't be afraid to express yourself.
Reach out and tell someone what they mean to you.
Because when you decide that it is the right time it might
be too late.
Seize the day. Never have regrets.
And most importantly, stay close to your friend
for they have helped
make you the person that you are today.
Few Definitions
School: A place where Papa pays and Son plays.
Life Insurance: A contract that keeps you poor all your life so that
you can die Rich.
Nurse: A person who wakes u up to give you sleeping pills.
Marriage: It's an agreement in which a man loses his bachelor degree
and a woman gains her masters.
Divorce: Future tense of Marriage.
Tears: The hydraulic force by which masculine willpower is defeated by
feminine waterpower.
Lecture: An art of transferring information from the notes of the
Lecturer to the notes of the students without passing through "the minds of
either"
Conference: The confusion of one man multiplied by the number present.
Compromise : The art of dividing a cake in such a way that everybody
believes he got the biggest piece.
Dictionary : A place where success comes before work.
Conference Room : A place where everybody talks, nobody listens and
everybody disagrees later on.
Father: A banker provided by nature.
Criminal: A guy no different from the rest....except that he got
caught.
Boss: Someone who is early when you are late and late when you are
early.
Politician : One who shakes your hand before elections and your
Confidence after.
Doctor : A person who kills your ills by pills, and kills you by bills.
Classic : Books, which people praise, but do not read.
Smile: A curve that can set a lot of things straight.
Office: A place where you can relax after your strenuous home life.
Yawn: The only time some married men ever get to open their mouth.
Etc.: A sign to make others believe that you know more than you
actually do.
Committee : Individuals who can do nothing individually and sit to
decide that nothing can be done together.
Experience : The name men give to their mistakes.
Atom Bomb: An invention to end all inventions.
Philosopher : A fool who torments himself during life, to be spoken of when
dead
Life Insurance: A contract that keeps you poor all your life so that
you can die Rich.
Nurse: A person who wakes u up to give you sleeping pills.
Marriage: It's an agreement in which a man loses his bachelor degree
and a woman gains her masters.
Divorce: Future tense of Marriage.
Tears: The hydraulic force by which masculine willpower is defeated by
feminine waterpower.
Lecture: An art of transferring information from the notes of the
Lecturer to the notes of the students without passing through "the minds of
either"
Conference: The confusion of one man multiplied by the number present.
Compromise : The art of dividing a cake in such a way that everybody
believes he got the biggest piece.
Dictionary : A place where success comes before work.
Conference Room : A place where everybody talks, nobody listens and
everybody disagrees later on.
Father: A banker provided by nature.
Criminal: A guy no different from the rest....except that he got
caught.
Boss: Someone who is early when you are late and late when you are
early.
Politician : One who shakes your hand before elections and your
Confidence after.
Doctor : A person who kills your ills by pills, and kills you by bills.
Classic : Books, which people praise, but do not read.
Smile: A curve that can set a lot of things straight.
Office: A place where you can relax after your strenuous home life.
Yawn: The only time some married men ever get to open their mouth.
Etc.: A sign to make others believe that you know more than you
actually do.
Committee : Individuals who can do nothing individually and sit to
decide that nothing can be done together.
Experience : The name men give to their mistakes.
Atom Bomb: An invention to end all inventions.
Philosopher : A fool who torments himself during life, to be spoken of when
dead
Funny Q n A
1. Did you take a bath?"
"Why, is there one missing?"
2. "Are you chewing gum?"
"No, I'm John Smith."
3. "I want to buy a dress to put on around the house."
"Yes, Madam. How large is your house?"
4. "What are you going to be when you graduate?"
"An old man."
5. "I spent three years in college taking medicine."
"Are you well now?"
6. "Do you say a prayer before you eat?"
"No, we don't have to. My mother is a good cook."
7. "I've got a surprise for you, honey. I brought a friend home for dinner."
"Who wants to eat friends?"
8. "We are having mother for dinner, darling."
"Make sure she's well done."
9. "I want some rat poison."
"Should I wrap it up or do you want to eat it right here?"
10. "It seems that everything I say to you goes in one ear and out the other."
"Well, I guess that's why I've got two ears."
11. "May I hold your hand?"
"No, thanks, It isn't heavy."
12. "Does water always come through the roof in this place?"
"No, sir, only when it rains."
13. "When will you straighten out the house, dear?"
"Why? Is it tilted?"
14. "Do these stairs take you to the second floor?"
"No, you'll have to walk"
15. "Now that you're married, you should have some insurance."
"But why? My wife isn't dangerous."
16. "I have changed! my mind."
"Thank heaven! Does it work better now?"
17. "Would you like your coffee black?"
"What other colors do you have?"
______________________________ __________
A Tooth Problem
A woman and her husband interrupted their vacation to go to the dentist. "I want a tooth pulled, and I don't want any pain killers because I'm in a big hurry," the woman said. "Just extract the tooth as quickly as possible, and we'll be on our way."
The dentist was quite impressed. "You're certainly a courageous woman," he said. "Which tooth is it?" The woman turned to her husband and said, "Show him your tooth, dear."
________________________________________
Importance of Sleep
A man can go two weeks without eating. But if he doesn't rest at all, he can only survive for one week. Sleeping provides us the time to rest our internal organs, eyes and brains. Poor sleep quality can cause internal damage to our internal organs and brains.
Therefore, sleeping is very important to us. If you wish to have a long life and stay healthy, please take note of the advice below.
5 DON'TS when you are sleeping :
1-DON'T SLEEP WITH WATCH :
Watches can emit a certain level of radioactivity. Though small, but if you wear your watch to bed for a long time, it might have adverse effects on your health.
3-DON'T SLEEP WITH PHONE :
Putting the phone beside your bed or anywhere near you is not encouraged. Though some of us will use phones as alarm clocks, but please put the phone as far as possible. Scientists have proved that electrical items including mobile phone and television sets emit magnetic waves when used. These waves can cause disruptions to our nervous system.
Therefore if you need to put your mobile phone near you, switch it off first.
4-DON'T SLEEP WITH MAKE UP :
People who sleep with make up might have skin problems in the long run. Sleeping with make up will cause the skin to have difficulty in breathing and problem in perspiring. You will also need a much longer time to go into deep sleep.
5-DON'T SLEEP WITH OTHERS' WIFE :
You may never wake up again.
"Why, is there one missing?"
2. "Are you chewing gum?"
"No, I'm John Smith."
3. "I want to buy a dress to put on around the house."
"Yes, Madam. How large is your house?"
4. "What are you going to be when you graduate?"
"An old man."
5. "I spent three years in college taking medicine."
"Are you well now?"
6. "Do you say a prayer before you eat?"
"No, we don't have to. My mother is a good cook."
7. "I've got a surprise for you, honey. I brought a friend home for dinner."
"Who wants to eat friends?"
8. "We are having mother for dinner, darling."
"Make sure she's well done."
9. "I want some rat poison."
"Should I wrap it up or do you want to eat it right here?"
10. "It seems that everything I say to you goes in one ear and out the other."
"Well, I guess that's why I've got two ears."
11. "May I hold your hand?"
"No, thanks, It isn't heavy."
12. "Does water always come through the roof in this place?"
"No, sir, only when it rains."
13. "When will you straighten out the house, dear?"
"Why? Is it tilted?"
14. "Do these stairs take you to the second floor?"
"No, you'll have to walk"
15. "Now that you're married, you should have some insurance."
"But why? My wife isn't dangerous."
16. "I have changed! my mind."
"Thank heaven! Does it work better now?"
17. "Would you like your coffee black?"
"What other colors do you have?"
______________________________ __________
A Tooth Problem
A woman and her husband interrupted their vacation to go to the dentist. "I want a tooth pulled, and I don't want any pain killers because I'm in a big hurry," the woman said. "Just extract the tooth as quickly as possible, and we'll be on our way."
The dentist was quite impressed. "You're certainly a courageous woman," he said. "Which tooth is it?" The woman turned to her husband and said, "Show him your tooth, dear."
________________________________________
Importance of Sleep
A man can go two weeks without eating. But if he doesn't rest at all, he can only survive for one week. Sleeping provides us the time to rest our internal organs, eyes and brains. Poor sleep quality can cause internal damage to our internal organs and brains.
Therefore, sleeping is very important to us. If you wish to have a long life and stay healthy, please take note of the advice below.
5 DON'TS when you are sleeping :
1-DON'T SLEEP WITH WATCH :
Watches can emit a certain level of radioactivity. Though small, but if you wear your watch to bed for a long time, it might have adverse effects on your health.
3-DON'T SLEEP WITH PHONE :
Putting the phone beside your bed or anywhere near you is not encouraged. Though some of us will use phones as alarm clocks, but please put the phone as far as possible. Scientists have proved that electrical items including mobile phone and television sets emit magnetic waves when used. These waves can cause disruptions to our nervous system.
Therefore if you need to put your mobile phone near you, switch it off first.
4-DON'T SLEEP WITH MAKE UP :
People who sleep with make up might have skin problems in the long run. Sleeping with make up will cause the skin to have difficulty in breathing and problem in perspiring. You will also need a much longer time to go into deep sleep.
5-DON'T SLEEP WITH OTHERS' WIFE :
You may never wake up again.
Can you pass this test?
Below are the Interview Questions, which were asked in HR Round.....
No one will GET second chance to impress....
Very very Impressive Questions and Answers..... ...
Question 1: You are driving along in your car on a wild, stormy night, it's raining heavily, when suddenly you pass by a bus stop, and you see three people waiting for a bus:
An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.
An old friend who once saved your life.
The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.
Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing very well that there could only be one passenger in your car?
This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once actually used as part of a job application.
* You could pick up the old lady, because she is going to die, and thus you should save her first;
* or you could take the old friend because he once saved your life, and this would be the perfect chance to ! pay him back.
* However, you may never be able to find your perfect mate again.
The candidate who was hired (out of 200 applicants) had no trouble coming up with his answer. Guess what was his answer?
He simply answered:
"I would give the car keys to my Old friend and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the partner of my dreams."
Sometimes, we gain more if we are able to give up our stubborn thought limitations. Never forget to "Think Outside of the Box."
Question 2: What will you do if I run away with your sister?"
The candidate who was selected answered " I will not get a better match for my sister than you sir"
Question 3: Interviewer (to a student girl candidate) - What is one morning you woke up & found that you were pregnant.
Girl - I will be very excited and take an off, to celebrate with my husband.
Normally an unmarried girl will be shocked to hear this, but she managed it well. Why I should think it in the wrong way, she said later when asked
Question 4: Interviewer: He ordered a cup of coffee for the candidate. Coffee arrived kept before the candidate, then he asked what is before you?
Candidate: Instantly replied "Tea"
He got selected.
You know how and why did he say "TEA" when he knows very well that coffee was kept before.
(Answer: The question was "What is before you (U - alphabet)
Reply was "TEA" ( T - alphabet)
Alphabet "T" was before Alphabet "U"
Question 5: Where Lord Rama would have celebrated his "First Diwali"? People will start thinking of Ayodya, Mitila [Janaki's place], Lanka etc...
But the logic is, Diwali was a celebrated as a mark of Lord Krishna Killing Narakasura . In Dusavataar, Krishnavathaar comes after Raamavathaar.
So, Lord Rama would not have celebrated the Diwali At all!
Question 6: The interviewer asked to the candidate "This is your last question of the interview. Please tell me the exact position of the center of this table where u have kept your files."
Candidate confidently put one of his finger at some point at the table and told that this was the central point at the table. Interviewer asked how did u get to know that this being the central point of this table, then he answers quickly that sir u r not likely to ask any more question, as it was the last question that u promised to ask.....
And hence, he was selected as because of his quick-wittedness. .........
This is What Interviewer expects from the Interviewee. ....
No one will GET second chance to impress....
Very very Impressive Questions and Answers..... ...
Question 1: You are driving along in your car on a wild, stormy night, it's raining heavily, when suddenly you pass by a bus stop, and you see three people waiting for a bus:
An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.
An old friend who once saved your life.
The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.
Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing very well that there could only be one passenger in your car?
This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once actually used as part of a job application.
* You could pick up the old lady, because she is going to die, and thus you should save her first;
* or you could take the old friend because he once saved your life, and this would be the perfect chance to ! pay him back.
* However, you may never be able to find your perfect mate again.
The candidate who was hired (out of 200 applicants) had no trouble coming up with his answer. Guess what was his answer?
He simply answered:
"I would give the car keys to my Old friend and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the partner of my dreams."
Sometimes, we gain more if we are able to give up our stubborn thought limitations. Never forget to "Think Outside of the Box."
Question 2: What will you do if I run away with your sister?"
The candidate who was selected answered " I will not get a better match for my sister than you sir"
Question 3: Interviewer (to a student girl candidate) - What is one morning you woke up & found that you were pregnant.
Girl - I will be very excited and take an off, to celebrate with my husband.
Normally an unmarried girl will be shocked to hear this, but she managed it well. Why I should think it in the wrong way, she said later when asked
Question 4: Interviewer: He ordered a cup of coffee for the candidate. Coffee arrived kept before the candidate, then he asked what is before you?
Candidate: Instantly replied "Tea"
He got selected.
You know how and why did he say "TEA" when he knows very well that coffee was kept before.
(Answer: The question was "What is before you (U - alphabet)
Reply was "TEA" ( T - alphabet)
Alphabet "T" was before Alphabet "U"
Question 5: Where Lord Rama would have celebrated his "First Diwali"? People will start thinking of Ayodya, Mitila [Janaki's place], Lanka etc...
But the logic is, Diwali was a celebrated as a mark of Lord Krishna Killing Narakasura . In Dusavataar, Krishnavathaar comes after Raamavathaar.
So, Lord Rama would not have celebrated the Diwali At all!
Question 6: The interviewer asked to the candidate "This is your last question of the interview. Please tell me the exact position of the center of this table where u have kept your files."
Candidate confidently put one of his finger at some point at the table and told that this was the central point at the table. Interviewer asked how did u get to know that this being the central point of this table, then he answers quickly that sir u r not likely to ask any more question, as it was the last question that u promised to ask.....
And hence, he was selected as because of his quick-wittedness. .........
This is What Interviewer expects from the Interviewee. ....
Traditional day at Infosys
Here is a snapshot from the traditional day celebrations at Infosys mangalore campus. Discovered from my mail box.
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Bingo, Poker, Slot games
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Thursday, December 18, 2008
Friday, June 15, 2007
Sunday, January 21, 2007
Mayonnaise Jar and 2 cups of coffee....
When things in your life seem almost too much to handle,when 24 hours in
a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar .. and the 2 cups of
coffee... A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items
in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very
large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.
He then asked the students if the jar was full.They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the
jar.He shook the jar lightly.
The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then
asked the students again if the jar was full.
They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it in
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of
course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar
was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes."
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the
table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the
empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things -
God
- Family
- Your children
- Your health
- Your friends,
- and your favorite passions -- things that if everything else was
lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your
house,
and your car.
The sand is everything else -- the small stuff.
"If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is
no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.
The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small
stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.
story writer: Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Play with your children.
Take time to get medical checkups.
Take your partner out to dinner.
Play another 18.
There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal."
Take care of the golf balls first -- the things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee
represented.
The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that
no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a cup of
coffee with a friend."
a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar .. and the 2 cups of
coffee... A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items
in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very
large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.
He then asked the students if the jar was full.They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the
jar.He shook the jar lightly.
The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then
asked the students again if the jar was full.
They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it in
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of
course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar
was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes."
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the
table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the
empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things -
God
- Family
- Your children
- Your health
- Your friends,
- and your favorite passions -- things that if everything else was
lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your
house,
and your car.
The sand is everything else -- the small stuff.
"If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is
no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.
The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small
stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.
story writer: Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Play with your children.
Take time to get medical checkups.
Take your partner out to dinner.
Play another 18.
There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal."
Take care of the golf balls first -- the things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee
represented.
The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that
no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a cup of
coffee with a friend."
Friday, January 19, 2007
Are we friends or are we not?~*
Are we friends or are we not?~*
*~You told me once but i forgot~*
*~So tell me now and tell me true~*
*~so I can say I'm here for you~*
*~Of all the friends I've ever met~*
*~You are the one I won't forget~*
*~And if I die before you do~ *
*~I'll go 2 heaven and wait 4 you~*
*~I'll give the angels back their wings~*
*~And risk the loss Of everything~*
*~Just to prove my friendship is true~*
*~To have a friend just like YOU!!!~*
*~You told me once but i forgot~*
*~So tell me now and tell me true~*
*~so I can say I'm here for you~*
*~Of all the friends I've ever met~*
*~You are the one I won't forget~*
*~And if I die before you do~ *
*~I'll go 2 heaven and wait 4 you~*
*~I'll give the angels back their wings~*
*~And risk the loss Of everything~*
*~Just to prove my friendship is true~*
*~To have a friend just like YOU!!!~*
Monday, January 01, 2007
Management Story
A very nice one....
Story # 1
It's a fine sunny day in the forest and a lion is sitting
outside his cave,
lying in the sun. Along comes a fox, out on a walk.
Fox: "Do you know the time, because my watch is broken"
Lion: "Oh, I can easily fix the watch for you"
Fox: "Hmm... But it's a very complicated mechanism, and your
big claws will
only destroy it even more"
Lion: "Oh no, give it to me, and it will be fixed"
Fox: "That's ridiculous! Any fool knows that lazy lions with
great claws
cannot fix complicated watches"
Lion: "Sure they do, give it to me and it will be fixed"
The lion disappears into his cave, and after a while he
comes back with the
watch which is running perfectly. The fox is impressed, and
the lion
continues to lie lazily in the sun, looking very pleased
with himself.
Soon a wolf comes along and stops to watch the lazy lion in
the sun.
Wolf: "Can I come and watch TV tonight with you, because
mine is broken"
Lion: "Oh, I can easily fix your TV for you"
Wolf: "You don't expect me to believe such rubbish, do you?
There is no way
that a lazy lion with big claws can fix a complicated TV"
Lion: "No problem. Do you want to try it?"
The lion goes into his cave, and after a while comes back
with a perfectly
fixed TV. The wolf goes away happily and amazed.
Scene :
Inside the lion's cave. In one corner are half a dozen small
and intelligent
looking rabbits who are busily doing very complicated work
with very
detailed instruments. In the other corner lies a huge lion
looking very
pleased with himself.
Moral :
IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY A MANAGER IS FAMOUS; LOOK AT THE
WORK OF HIS
SUBORDINATES.
Management Lesson
In the context of the working world :
IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY SOMEONE UNDESERVED IS PROMOTED; LOOK
AT THE WORK OF
HIS SUBORDINATES.
Story # 2
It's a fine sunny day in the forest and a rabbit is sitting
outside his
burrow, tippy-tapping on his typewriter. Along comes a fox,
out for a walk.
Fox: "What are you working on?"
Rabbit: "My thesis."
Fox: "Hmm... What is it about?"
Rabbit: "Oh, I'm writing about how rabbits eat foxes."
Fox: "That's ridiculous ! Any fool knows that rabbits don't
eat foxes!"
Rabbit: "Come with me and I'll show you!"
They both disappear into the rabbit's burrow. After few
minutes, gnawing on
a fox bone, the rabbit returns to his typewriter and resumes
typing.
Soon a wolf comes along and stops to watch the hardworking
rabbit.
Wolf: "What's that you are writing?"
Rabbit: "I'm doing a thesis on how rabbits eat wolves."
Wolf: "you don't expect to get such rubbish published, do
you?"
Rabbit: "No problem. Do you want to see why?"
The rabbit and the wolf go into the burrow and again the
rabbit returns by
himself, after a few minutes, and goes back to typing.
Finally a bear comes along and asks, "What are you doing?
Rabbit: "I'm doing a thesis on how rabbits eat bears."
Bear: "Well that's absurd ! "
Rabbit: "Come into my home and I'll show you"
Scene :
As they enter the burrow, the rabbit introduces the bear to
the lion.
Moral:
IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW SILLY YOUR THESIS TOPIC IS; WHAT
MATTERS IS WHOM YOU
HAVE AS A SUPERVISOR.
Management Lesson
In the context of the working world:
IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW BAD YOUR PERFORMANCE IS; WHAT MATTERS
IS WHETHER YOUR
BOSS LIKES YOU OR NOT.
Story # 1
It's a fine sunny day in the forest and a lion is sitting
outside his cave,
lying in the sun. Along comes a fox, out on a walk.
Fox: "Do you know the time, because my watch is broken"
Lion: "Oh, I can easily fix the watch for you"
Fox: "Hmm... But it's a very complicated mechanism, and your
big claws will
only destroy it even more"
Lion: "Oh no, give it to me, and it will be fixed"
Fox: "That's ridiculous! Any fool knows that lazy lions with
great claws
cannot fix complicated watches"
Lion: "Sure they do, give it to me and it will be fixed"
The lion disappears into his cave, and after a while he
comes back with the
watch which is running perfectly. The fox is impressed, and
the lion
continues to lie lazily in the sun, looking very pleased
with himself.
Soon a wolf comes along and stops to watch the lazy lion in
the sun.
Wolf: "Can I come and watch TV tonight with you, because
mine is broken"
Lion: "Oh, I can easily fix your TV for you"
Wolf: "You don't expect me to believe such rubbish, do you?
There is no way
that a lazy lion with big claws can fix a complicated TV"
Lion: "No problem. Do you want to try it?"
The lion goes into his cave, and after a while comes back
with a perfectly
fixed TV. The wolf goes away happily and amazed.
Scene :
Inside the lion's cave. In one corner are half a dozen small
and intelligent
looking rabbits who are busily doing very complicated work
with very
detailed instruments. In the other corner lies a huge lion
looking very
pleased with himself.
Moral :
IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY A MANAGER IS FAMOUS; LOOK AT THE
WORK OF HIS
SUBORDINATES.
Management Lesson
In the context of the working world :
IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY SOMEONE UNDESERVED IS PROMOTED; LOOK
AT THE WORK OF
HIS SUBORDINATES.
Story # 2
It's a fine sunny day in the forest and a rabbit is sitting
outside his
burrow, tippy-tapping on his typewriter. Along comes a fox,
out for a walk.
Fox: "What are you working on?"
Rabbit: "My thesis."
Fox: "Hmm... What is it about?"
Rabbit: "Oh, I'm writing about how rabbits eat foxes."
Fox: "That's ridiculous ! Any fool knows that rabbits don't
eat foxes!"
Rabbit: "Come with me and I'll show you!"
They both disappear into the rabbit's burrow. After few
minutes, gnawing on
a fox bone, the rabbit returns to his typewriter and resumes
typing.
Soon a wolf comes along and stops to watch the hardworking
rabbit.
Wolf: "What's that you are writing?"
Rabbit: "I'm doing a thesis on how rabbits eat wolves."
Wolf: "you don't expect to get such rubbish published, do
you?"
Rabbit: "No problem. Do you want to see why?"
The rabbit and the wolf go into the burrow and again the
rabbit returns by
himself, after a few minutes, and goes back to typing.
Finally a bear comes along and asks, "What are you doing?
Rabbit: "I'm doing a thesis on how rabbits eat bears."
Bear: "Well that's absurd ! "
Rabbit: "Come into my home and I'll show you"
Scene :
As they enter the burrow, the rabbit introduces the bear to
the lion.
Moral:
IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW SILLY YOUR THESIS TOPIC IS; WHAT
MATTERS IS WHOM YOU
HAVE AS A SUPERVISOR.
Management Lesson
In the context of the working world:
IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW BAD YOUR PERFORMANCE IS; WHAT MATTERS
IS WHETHER YOUR
BOSS LIKES YOU OR NOT.
Wednesday, December 06, 2006
WHY EMPLOYEES LEAVE ORGANISATIONS
WHY EMPLOYEES LEAVE ORGANISATIONS ? - Azim Premji, CEO- Wipro
Every company faces the problem of people leaving the company for better
pay or profile.
Early this year, Mark, a senior software designer, got an offer from a
prestigious international firm to work in its India operations
developing
specialized software. He was thrilled by the offer.
He had heard a lot about the CEO. The salary was great. The company had
all
the right systems in place employee-friendly human resources (HR)
policies,
a spanking new office,and the very best technology,even a canteen that
served superb food.
Twice Mark was sent abroad for training. "My learning curve is the
sharpest
it's ever been," he said soon after he joined.
Last week, less than eight months after he joined, Mark walked out of
the
job.
Why did this talented employee leave ?
Arun quit for the same reason that drives many good people away.
The answer lies in one of the largest studies undertaken by the Gallup
Organization. The study surveyed over a million employees and 80,000
managers and was published in a book called "First Break All The Rules".
It
came up with this surprising finding:
If you're losing good people, look to their immediate boss .Immediate
boss
is the reason people stay and thrive in an organization. And he 's the
reason why people leave. When people leave they take
knowledge,experience
and contacts with them, straight to the competition.
"People leave managers not companies," write the authors Marcus
Buckingham
and Curt Coffman.
Mostly manager drives people away?
HR experts say that of all the abuses, employees find humiliation the
most
intolerable. The first time, an employee may not leave,but a thought has
been planted. The second time, that thought gets strengthened. The third
time, he looks for another job.
When people cannot retort openly in anger, they do so by passive
aggression. By digging their heels in and slowing down. By doing only
what
they are told to do and no more. By omitting to give the boss crucial
information. Dev says: "If you work for a jerk, you basically want to
get
him into trouble. You don 't have your heart and soul in the job."
Different managers can stress out employees in different ways - by being
too controlling, too suspicious,too pushy, too critical, but they forget
that workers are not fixed assets, they are free agents. When this goes
on
too long, an employee will quit - often over a trivial issue.
Talented men leave. Dead wood doesn't.
Every company faces the problem of people leaving the company for better
pay or profile.
Early this year, Mark, a senior software designer, got an offer from a
prestigious international firm to work in its India operations
developing
specialized software. He was thrilled by the offer.
He had heard a lot about the CEO. The salary was great. The company had
all
the right systems in place employee-friendly human resources (HR)
policies,
a spanking new office,and the very best technology,even a canteen that
served superb food.
Twice Mark was sent abroad for training. "My learning curve is the
sharpest
it's ever been," he said soon after he joined.
Last week, less than eight months after he joined, Mark walked out of
the
job.
Why did this talented employee leave ?
Arun quit for the same reason that drives many good people away.
The answer lies in one of the largest studies undertaken by the Gallup
Organization. The study surveyed over a million employees and 80,000
managers and was published in a book called "First Break All The Rules".
It
came up with this surprising finding:
If you're losing good people, look to their immediate boss .Immediate
boss
is the reason people stay and thrive in an organization. And he 's the
reason why people leave. When people leave they take
knowledge,experience
and contacts with them, straight to the competition.
"People leave managers not companies," write the authors Marcus
Buckingham
and Curt Coffman.
Mostly manager drives people away?
HR experts say that of all the abuses, employees find humiliation the
most
intolerable. The first time, an employee may not leave,but a thought has
been planted. The second time, that thought gets strengthened. The third
time, he looks for another job.
When people cannot retort openly in anger, they do so by passive
aggression. By digging their heels in and slowing down. By doing only
what
they are told to do and no more. By omitting to give the boss crucial
information. Dev says: "If you work for a jerk, you basically want to
get
him into trouble. You don 't have your heart and soul in the job."
Different managers can stress out employees in different ways - by being
too controlling, too suspicious,too pushy, too critical, but they forget
that workers are not fixed assets, they are free agents. When this goes
on
too long, an employee will quit - often over a trivial issue.
Talented men leave. Dead wood doesn't.
Saturday, October 14, 2006
POLICIES & PROCEDURES
POLICIES AND PROCEDURES
Put eight monkeys in a room. In the middle of the room is a ladder, leading
to a bunch of bananas hanging from a hook on the ceiling. Each time a monkey
tries to climb the ladder, all the monkeys are sprayed with ice water, which
makes them miserable. Soon enough, whenever a monkey attempts to climb the
ladder, all of the other monkeys, not wanting to be sprayed, set upon him and
beat him up. Soon, none of the eight monkeys ever attempts to climb the
ladder.
One of the original monkeys is then removed, and a new monkey is put in the
room. Seeing the bananas and the ladder, he wonders why none of the other
monkeys are doing the obvious, but, undaunted, he immediately begins to climb
the ladder. All the other monkeys fall upon him and beat him silly. He has no
idea why. However, he no longer attempts to climb the ladder.
A second original monkey is removed and replaced. The newcomer again
attempts to climb the ladder, but all the other monkeys hammer the crap out of him.
This includes the previous new monkey, who, grateful that he's not on the
receiving end this time, participates in the beating because all the other
monkeys are doing it. However, he has no idea why he's attacking the new monkey.
One by one, all the original monkeys are replaced.
Eight new monkeys are now in the room. None of them have ever been sprayed
by ice water. None of them attempt to climb the ladder. All of them will
enthusiastically beat up any new monkey who tries, without having any idea why.
AND THAT'S HOW VERY MANY COMPANY POLICIES & PROCEDURES GET ESTABLISHED.
Put eight monkeys in a room. In the middle of the room is a ladder, leading
to a bunch of bananas hanging from a hook on the ceiling. Each time a monkey
tries to climb the ladder, all the monkeys are sprayed with ice water, which
makes them miserable. Soon enough, whenever a monkey attempts to climb the
ladder, all of the other monkeys, not wanting to be sprayed, set upon him and
beat him up. Soon, none of the eight monkeys ever attempts to climb the
ladder.
One of the original monkeys is then removed, and a new monkey is put in the
room. Seeing the bananas and the ladder, he wonders why none of the other
monkeys are doing the obvious, but, undaunted, he immediately begins to climb
the ladder. All the other monkeys fall upon him and beat him silly. He has no
idea why. However, he no longer attempts to climb the ladder.
A second original monkey is removed and replaced. The newcomer again
attempts to climb the ladder, but all the other monkeys hammer the crap out of him.
This includes the previous new monkey, who, grateful that he's not on the
receiving end this time, participates in the beating because all the other
monkeys are doing it. However, he has no idea why he's attacking the new monkey.
One by one, all the original monkeys are replaced.
Eight new monkeys are now in the room. None of them have ever been sprayed
by ice water. None of them attempt to climb the ladder. All of them will
enthusiastically beat up any new monkey who tries, without having any idea why.
AND THAT'S HOW VERY MANY COMPANY POLICIES & PROCEDURES GET ESTABLISHED.
interesting one
A soldier stationed in Afghanistan recently received a letter from his
girlfriend back home. It read as follows:
Dear Ricky,
I can no longer continue our relationship. The distance between us is
just too great. I'm sorry. Please return the picture of me that I sent to
you.
Love, Becky
The soldier, with hurt feelings, asked his fellow soldiers for any
snapshots they could spare of their girlfriends, sisters or ex-girlfriends.
In addition to the picture of Becky, Ricky included all the other pictures
of the pretty gals he had collected from his buddies. There were 57 photos
in that envelope along with this note:
Dear Becky,
I'm so sorry, but I can't quite remember who the hell you are.
Please take your picture from the pile, and send the rest back to me.
Take Care,
Ricky
Moral of the story: If you can't change your fate, change your attitude.
girlfriend back home. It read as follows:
Dear Ricky,
I can no longer continue our relationship. The distance between us is
just too great. I'm sorry. Please return the picture of me that I sent to
you.
Love, Becky
The soldier, with hurt feelings, asked his fellow soldiers for any
snapshots they could spare of their girlfriends, sisters or ex-girlfriends.
In addition to the picture of Becky, Ricky included all the other pictures
of the pretty gals he had collected from his buddies. There were 57 photos
in that envelope along with this note:
Dear Becky,
I'm so sorry, but I can't quite remember who the hell you are.
Please take your picture from the pile, and send the rest back to me.
Take Care,
Ricky
Moral of the story: If you can't change your fate, change your attitude.
Friday, October 06, 2006
Doctor
A mechanic was removing the cylinder heads from the motor of a car when he spotted the famous heart surgeon in his shop, who was standing off to the side, waiting for the service manager to come to take a look at his car. The mechanic shouted across the garage, "Hello Doctor! Please come over here for a minute."
The famous surgeon, a bit surprised, walked over to the mechanic. The mechanic straightened up, wiped his hands on a rag and asked argumentatively, "So doctor, look at this. I also open hearts, take valves out, grind 'em, put in new parts, and when I finish this will work as a new one. So how come you get the big money, when you and me are doing basically the same work? " The doctor leaned over and whispered to the mechanic ...
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The famous surgeon, a bit surprised, walked over to the mechanic. The mechanic straightened up, wiped his hands on a rag and asked argumentatively, "So doctor, look at this. I also open hearts, take valves out, grind 'em, put in new parts, and when I finish this will work as a new one. So how come you get the big money, when you and me are doing basically the same work? " The doctor leaned over and whispered to the mechanic ...
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He said: "Try to do it when the engine is running"
Monday, September 25, 2006
Life cycle
This is the story of a young bright man
Who was a qualified engineer
Who wanted to rise to the top of his clan
And have a scintillating career
He graduated from a premier t-school
With good if not the best grades
And like the rest of us, landed in the IT cesspool
Earned lotsa money, drove a fancy bike and wore Ray Ban shades
In the first year into his employment,
He learnt a lot, he worked hard and smart
His life was filled with work and enjoyment
He hoped it would all pay off, this was just a start
VB, VC, C++ and java,
Unix, Sun, Linux and windows
His tech skills were red hot like lava
Little did he know that these were to be his biggest foes
Things became a little monotonous, in the next year or two
There wasnt much to draw him to office on a monday morning
To advance his career, he tried everything he could do
But each time he was bypassed without prior notice or warning
He couldnt figure out what he did wrong
He wondered where he was going astray
Until one day, a bell in his mind went ding dong
And he realized "I need an MBA!!!"
So he studied for every management test
JMET, GMAT, XAT and CAT
For his job he lost all zest
He used to disappear from office at the drop of a hat
Bright as he was, he cracked every exam
And chose to go to the country's best b-school
His manager tried to retain him, he didnt give a damn
And to the annals of history was added the tale of another misguided fool
At b-school, the course-work hit him like a ton of bricks
He barely had time to eat and never enough sleep
Constantly toiling from eight to six
He felt like a bollywood villian, tied to the back of a speeding jeep
The stuff he studied, all seemed like simple common sense
But it was made out to be the cleverest thing around
It was embellished and polished with masterful pretense
Redundant with banalities, jargon abound
Thro two agonizing years he struggled
Barely managing to maintain a respectable GPA
But one question always had him puzzled
Why the hell was he doing all this anyway ?
Come placement season, there is tension in the air
There's fierce competition for every job on offer
Nobody takes chances, they all apply everywhere
Dressed in their best suits, clean shaven, prim and proper
He doesnt get a job on day zero or one
He apparently doesnt have what it takes
He gets a job on day two to the amazement of no one
The package is peanuts compared to what an i-banker makes
Another bright engineer following age-old tradition
Another reluctant manager, who does what he does because he must
Walking down the dark road to management perdition
Another one bites the dust
Thanks to Venkata Krishna Mohan Pilla of Infosys
Who was a qualified engineer
Who wanted to rise to the top of his clan
And have a scintillating career
He graduated from a premier t-school
With good if not the best grades
And like the rest of us, landed in the IT cesspool
Earned lotsa money, drove a fancy bike and wore Ray Ban shades
In the first year into his employment,
He learnt a lot, he worked hard and smart
His life was filled with work and enjoyment
He hoped it would all pay off, this was just a start
VB, VC, C++ and java,
Unix, Sun, Linux and windows
His tech skills were red hot like lava
Little did he know that these were to be his biggest foes
Things became a little monotonous, in the next year or two
There wasnt much to draw him to office on a monday morning
To advance his career, he tried everything he could do
But each time he was bypassed without prior notice or warning
He couldnt figure out what he did wrong
He wondered where he was going astray
Until one day, a bell in his mind went ding dong
And he realized "I need an MBA!!!"
So he studied for every management test
JMET, GMAT, XAT and CAT
For his job he lost all zest
He used to disappear from office at the drop of a hat
Bright as he was, he cracked every exam
And chose to go to the country's best b-school
His manager tried to retain him, he didnt give a damn
And to the annals of history was added the tale of another misguided fool
At b-school, the course-work hit him like a ton of bricks
He barely had time to eat and never enough sleep
Constantly toiling from eight to six
He felt like a bollywood villian, tied to the back of a speeding jeep
The stuff he studied, all seemed like simple common sense
But it was made out to be the cleverest thing around
It was embellished and polished with masterful pretense
Redundant with banalities, jargon abound
Thro two agonizing years he struggled
Barely managing to maintain a respectable GPA
But one question always had him puzzled
Why the hell was he doing all this anyway ?
Come placement season, there is tension in the air
There's fierce competition for every job on offer
Nobody takes chances, they all apply everywhere
Dressed in their best suits, clean shaven, prim and proper
He doesnt get a job on day zero or one
He apparently doesnt have what it takes
He gets a job on day two to the amazement of no one
The package is peanuts compared to what an i-banker makes
Another bright engineer following age-old tradition
Another reluctant manager, who does what he does because he must
Walking down the dark road to management perdition
Another one bites the dust
Thanks to Venkata Krishna Mohan Pilla of Infosys
Monday, July 17, 2006
Nice one
It was raining heavily outside. Dark clouds gathered in the sky and nature was in its ominous best. I took a break from my work and went to the pantry to grab a cup of coffee. I had a sip and went near the window to see the rain pouring down heavily outside the glass structure. I was inside our huge office building, unruffled by even the fierceness of the nature. Through the heavy transparent glass, I could see a small girl trying to hold on to her umbrella which the wind was snatching away from her. I felt sorry for the girl, and was happy that I was not in a similar pathetic situation. Yes. I take pride for the fact that I am a software engineer. . I have everything which a common man would envy; money, status, respect, you name it I have it. I always wanted to be software professional and here I am, working for one of the best firms in the world. But then, am I really happy? Now, I could see an imprint of my palm on the other glass window, through which I reminisced my past, basked in the warmth of the sun shine.
My childhood was so much of fun. I vividly remember those rainy days, when I hugged my mother tightly during sleeping listening to all the stories told by her. Now, I have a big house here, but then it is just a house, not a home. My parents are pretty far away from me now. I have a cell phone to talk to them everyday, but then I really miss those dinners which I had with my family everyday. I could easily afford to taste all the different cuisines these days, but the best of food there, lack the love and affection which is present in the food prepared by my mother.
I threw a lavish party for my colleagues for my birthday, but then they would never replace the birthdays when my friends secretly brought a cake and at the end, half of the cake would have ended up on my face. The couple of hundred bucks that u save for a long period just to give a treat to your friends in the road side chat shop can never give the pleasure even after spending a few thousand bucks these days.
The scene of me crying and refusing to have dinner on the day when I fought with my best friend came to my mind. Today, she has gone far away from me, taking away my love and with it my life, but I am sitting and coding here with a false smile on my face. Everyday I meet new people, but then I long ceased to make a new friend.
It's true that I have a lot of things now. I have a nice bed, but no time to sleep. Lots of money, but no friends to spend it with. The latest designer clothes, but a worn out body. Quite a few to flirt, but no one to love. Awards for technical excellence, but no reward for the crave for peaceful ambience. A confident demeanor, but a reluctant and apathetic mind. Full of rain, but no sunshine even in the farthest distance.
Now, I could see the small girl on the road enjoying in the rain with her umbrella firmly in her grip. She might not have all the comforts which I have, but then she has the innocence and fun which I lost a long time back. I have decided to come out of this false fantasy, even if it is at the expense of losing the tap of the software engineer. I am going to again enjoy my life. I am going to go out in the rain and play with the small kid now. I removed my tie, and went near my computer to shut it down. Just then, I saw a new mail alert in my mail box. I slowly opened outlook and I found a message from my manager with an attachment saying that there was a critical defect in the code and I have to fix it soon. I convinced myself that I am not going to get bogged down again by these pressures and stick to my decision. I ignored the mail and went to the rest room. After a couple of minutes, the software engineer in me came out, his shirt tucked in with the perfect tie knot, sat before the computer, and started typing,
XYZ,
I am looking into the defect and will send the patch files before EOD.
Regards,
Me.
My childhood was so much of fun. I vividly remember those rainy days, when I hugged my mother tightly during sleeping listening to all the stories told by her. Now, I have a big house here, but then it is just a house, not a home. My parents are pretty far away from me now. I have a cell phone to talk to them everyday, but then I really miss those dinners which I had with my family everyday. I could easily afford to taste all the different cuisines these days, but the best of food there, lack the love and affection which is present in the food prepared by my mother.
I threw a lavish party for my colleagues for my birthday, but then they would never replace the birthdays when my friends secretly brought a cake and at the end, half of the cake would have ended up on my face. The couple of hundred bucks that u save for a long period just to give a treat to your friends in the road side chat shop can never give the pleasure even after spending a few thousand bucks these days.
The scene of me crying and refusing to have dinner on the day when I fought with my best friend came to my mind. Today, she has gone far away from me, taking away my love and with it my life, but I am sitting and coding here with a false smile on my face. Everyday I meet new people, but then I long ceased to make a new friend.
It's true that I have a lot of things now. I have a nice bed, but no time to sleep. Lots of money, but no friends to spend it with. The latest designer clothes, but a worn out body. Quite a few to flirt, but no one to love. Awards for technical excellence, but no reward for the crave for peaceful ambience. A confident demeanor, but a reluctant and apathetic mind. Full of rain, but no sunshine even in the farthest distance.
Now, I could see the small girl on the road enjoying in the rain with her umbrella firmly in her grip. She might not have all the comforts which I have, but then she has the innocence and fun which I lost a long time back. I have decided to come out of this false fantasy, even if it is at the expense of losing the tap of the software engineer. I am going to again enjoy my life. I am going to go out in the rain and play with the small kid now. I removed my tie, and went near my computer to shut it down. Just then, I saw a new mail alert in my mail box. I slowly opened outlook and I found a message from my manager with an attachment saying that there was a critical defect in the code and I have to fix it soon. I convinced myself that I am not going to get bogged down again by these pressures and stick to my decision. I ignored the mail and went to the rest room. After a couple of minutes, the software engineer in me came out, his shirt tucked in with the perfect tie knot, sat before the computer, and started typing,
XYZ,
I am looking into the defect and will send the patch files before EOD.
Regards,
Me.
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