Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Behaviour Problems in Children

















































































Behaviour problem Possible meaning Do not Do
Hurts other children/span>
Troubled feelings, anger Punish or hurt him. Make him feel
‘bad’, act angry


Separate quietly the other
children. Divert his attention. Take away the hurting object, calmly and
firmly. Teach the child that there are some things we just do not do. Help
the children play happily together again. Prevent hutting episodes by helping
the child feel loved, by giving him other outlets for feelings.



Destroys
things



Feelings of helplessness, Jealousy, Boredom. Wanting
attention, Excitement, Exuberance, Curiosity



Scold, yell, shout, tell him he is
bad. Preach at him. Punish, spank or hit him.



Remove destroyable things from the
child’s reach. Provide hem a good place for play. Expect some wear and tear
from things. Substitute something else for what is being destroyed. Expand
the child’s world by taking him to different places, let him see and explore
new areas. Provide things to pound and mess, cut and tear. Teach him firmly
what he may and may not do.



Uses
bad language



Trying something new. A joke, imitation, getting
attention. Letting off steam.



Get excited. Feel embarrassed or
shocked. Scold or punish. Lecture at him. Over emphasize the bad language.



Relax, understand what it means.
Tell him calmly to stop. Try rhyming some other word with it for fun or often
other simple substitutes. Give him healthy outlets for his feelings.



Does
not share



Too young or too little. Need for experience in owning
and sharing.



Snatch from him scold or hurt him.
Tell him do not like him.



Helping to share and like it. Be
sure he has things that are all his, let him know what it means to own
things. Be a fair arbiter in his squabbles with other children. Love him,
help him to feel secure. Provide experiences as he is ready for them.



Sucks
his thumb / fingers



Need for sucking. Need for loving, cuddling, assurance
and comforting, fatigue. Hunger, dissatisfaction, boredom.



Force or restrain. Punish or
scold. Coax threaten or bribe. Tie fingers or smear hem with bitter
medicine.



Provide sucking satisfaction. Give
more satisfaction, love, attention and pleasure. Find out what he wants and
needs and provide them as best as you can. Relax and realize that thumb
sucking rarely lasts and is not serious. See it as a sign that the child is
unhappy or dissatisfied at the moment.



Wets



He is not ready for training yet. Too early to effort
train. Resistance or rebellion. Insecurity, fear.



Make an issue. Threaten, shame or
punish. Bribe or reward. Insist that he tells you when he should go to the
toilet. Tell him you do not love him.



Accept it and the child as
gracefully as you can. Except some accidents. Give him affection freely. Let
him know you have confidence that he will do better some day. Help him become
independent in other ways and encourage him to grow up.



Demands
attention



Feels let out, insecure, unloved. Boredom. Interest in
you.



Scold or punish. Ignore or isolate
him. Ridicule him. Shame him.



Give him a flair measure of attention.
Show interest in him as a person. Provide interesting things to do. Share
yourself with him.



Has
fears



Previous painful experiences. Strangeness. Need for his
parents close by. Feeling unloved or guilty.



Force or reason the child out of
his fears. Shame, threaten or coerce. Make him do the feared thing.



Reassure and comfort him. Make the
feared place or situation a happy one. Teach him caution for real dangers and
hazards. Show him love and comfort. Encourage his efforts to be ‘big’. Help
him to help himself, avoid fearful experience, avoid fearful experiences or
prepare him for them.



Steals



Ignorance of property rights. Unsatisfied needs and
hunger. Rebellion. Hostile feelings. Imitation.



Make hem feel bad. Scold or shame.
Punish or reject. Cut off love. Take from him something to make up for the
theft. Humiliate him before others.



Let him own things and get a sense
of mine and yours. Help him earn and get what he needs and wants. Be kind,
understanding and not too rigid. Provide creative outlets for his interests.
Help him make real friends.



Tells
lies



Fear of punishment, exaggeration, imagination, imitation,
attention seeking.



Preach or prophesy. Punish or
shame or reject. Make him apologize. Get upset.



Relax and try to understand. Give
him attention for what he does and provide him with opportunities for
enriching his imagination. Help him discover the difference between fact and
fancy. Tell him the truth.



Gets
out of bed



Curiosity, interest, not sleepy, attention seeking.
Uncomfortable. Examine what you expect from him.



Scold or punish, threaten. Reward
or bribe. Put to bed as punishment. Tie or restrain him.



Make going to bed a happy
experience. Read or sing or play with him, a little before leaving him in
bed. Avoid over-stimulating experience at bed time. See that his needs are
met before he goes to bed. Talk to him in bed with evidences of real
affection. Put him back kindly but firmly.



Refuses
to eat



He is not hungry. Dislikes particular food. Feels unwell.



Force. Make a scene. Punish.
Reward. Threaten. Put on an act.



Be casual and calm. It will not
hurt him to miss a meal or two. Introduce new foods only a bit at a time and
along with favorite foods.


Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Happy Xmas

Nice poem

Around the corner I have a friend,




In this great city that has no end,




Yet the days go by and weeks rush on,




And before I know it, a year is gone.




And I never see my old friend face,




For life is a swift and terrible race,




He knows I like him just as well,




As in the days when I rang his bell.




And he rang mine but we were younger then,




And now we are busy, tired men.




Tired of playing a foolish game,




Tired of trying to make a name.




"Tomorrow" I say! "I will call on …….




Just to show that I'm thinking of him."




But tomorrow comes and tomorrow goes,




And distance between us grows and grows.




Around the corner, yet miles away,




"Here's a telegram sir," "….. died today."




And that's what we get and deserve in the end.




Around the corner, a vanished friend.




Remember to always say what you mean.




If you love someone, tell them.




Don't be afraid to express yourself.




Reach out and tell someone what they mean to you.




Because when you decide that it is the right time it might




be too late.




Seize the day. Never have regrets.




And most importantly, stay close to your friend

for they have helped

make you the person that you are today.

Heart determines

Few Definitions

School: A place where Papa pays and Son plays.

Life Insurance: A contract that keeps you poor all your life so that
you can die Rich.

Nurse: A person who wakes u up to give you sleeping pills.

Marriage: It's an agreement in which a man loses his bachelor degree
and a woman gains her masters.

Divorce: Future tense of Marriage.

Tears: The hydraulic force by which masculine willpower is defeated by
feminine waterpower.

Lecture: An art of transferring information from the notes of the
Lecturer to the notes of the students without passing through "the minds of
either"

Conference: The confusion of one man multiplied by the number present.

Compromise : The art of dividing a cake in such a way that everybody
believes he got the biggest piece.

Dictionary : A place where success comes before work.

Conference Room : A place where everybody talks, nobody listens and
everybody disagrees later on.

Father: A banker provided by nature.

Criminal: A guy no different from the rest....except that he got
caught.

Boss: Someone who is early when you are late and late when you are
early.

Politician : One who shakes your hand before elections and your
Confidence after.

Doctor : A person who kills your ills by pills, and kills you by bills.

Classic : Books, which people praise, but do not read.

Smile: A curve that can set a lot of things straight.

Office: A place where you can relax after your strenuous home life.

Yawn: The only time some married men ever get to open their mouth.

Etc.: A sign to make others believe that you know more than you
actually do.

Committee : Individuals who can do nothing individually and sit to
decide that nothing can be done together.

Experience : The name men give to their mistakes.

Atom Bomb: An invention to end all inventions.

Philosopher : A fool who torments himself during life, to be spoken of when
dead

Funny Q n A

1. Did you take a bath?"
"Why, is there one missing?"

2. "Are you chewing gum?"
"No, I'm John Smith."

3. "I want to buy a dress to put on around the house."
"Yes, Madam. How large is your house?"

4. "What are you going to be when you graduate?"
"An old man."

5. "I spent three years in college taking medicine."
"Are you well now?"

6. "Do you say a prayer before you eat?"
"No, we don't have to. My mother is a good cook."

7. "I've got a surprise for you, honey. I brought a friend home for dinner."
"Who wants to eat friends?"

8. "We are having mother for dinner, darling."
"Make sure she's well done."

9. "I want some rat poison."
"Should I wrap it up or do you want to eat it right here?"

10. "It seems that everything I say to you goes in one ear and out the other."
"Well, I guess that's why I've got two ears."

11. "May I hold your hand?"
"No, thanks, It isn't heavy."

12. "Does water always come through the roof in this place?"
"No, sir, only when it rains."

13. "When will you straighten out the house, dear?"
"Why? Is it tilted?"

14. "Do these stairs take you to the second floor?"
"No, you'll have to walk"

15. "Now that you're married, you should have some insurance."
"But why? My wife isn't dangerous."

16. "I have changed! my mind."
"Thank heaven! Does it work better now?"

17. "Would you like your coffee black?"
"What other colors do you have?"
______________________________ __________
A Tooth Problem

A woman and her husband interrupted their vacation to go to the dentist. "I want a tooth pulled, and I don't want any pain killers because I'm in a big hurry," the woman said. "Just extract the tooth as quickly as possible, and we'll be on our way."

The dentist was quite impressed. "You're certainly a courageous woman," he said. "Which tooth is it?" The woman turned to her husband and said, "Show him your tooth, dear."
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Importance of Sleep

A man can go two weeks without eating. But if he doesn't rest at all, he can only survive for one week. Sleeping provides us the time to rest our internal organs, eyes and brains. Poor sleep quality can cause internal damage to our internal organs and brains.
Therefore, sleeping is very important to us. If you wish to have a long life and stay healthy, please take note of the advice below.

5 DON'TS when you are sleeping :

1-DON'T SLEEP WITH WATCH :
Watches can emit a certain level of radioactivity. Though small, but if you wear your watch to bed for a long time, it might have adverse effects on your health.

3-DON'T SLEEP WITH PHONE :
Putting the phone beside your bed or anywhere near you is not encouraged. Though some of us will use phones as alarm clocks, but please put the phone as far as possible. Scientists have proved that electrical items including mobile phone and television sets emit magnetic waves when used. These waves can cause disruptions to our nervous system.
Therefore if you need to put your mobile phone near you, switch it off first.

4-DON'T SLEEP WITH MAKE UP :
People who sleep with make up might have skin problems in the long run. Sleeping with make up will cause the skin to have difficulty in breathing and problem in perspiring. You will also need a much longer time to go into deep sleep.

5-DON'T SLEEP WITH OTHERS' WIFE :
You may never wake up again.

Can you pass this test?

Below are the Interview Questions, which were asked in HR Round.....


No one will GET second chance to impress....


Very very Impressive Questions and Answers..... ...


Question 1: You are driving along in your car on a wild, stormy night, it's raining heavily, when suddenly you pass by a bus stop, and you see three people waiting for a bus:




An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.

An old friend who once saved your life.

The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.



Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing very well that there could only be one passenger in your car?



This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once actually used as part of a job application.



* You could pick up the old lady, because she is going to die, and thus you should save her first;

* or you could take the old friend because he once saved your life, and this would be the perfect chance to ! pay him back.

* However, you may never be able to find your perfect mate again.



The candidate who was hired (out of 200 applicants) had no trouble coming up with his answer. Guess what was his answer?



He simply answered:



"I would give the car keys to my Old friend and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the partner of my dreams."



Sometimes, we gain more if we are able to give up our stubborn thought limitations. Never forget to "Think Outside of the Box."



Question 2: What will you do if I run away with your sister?"



The candidate who was selected answered " I will not get a better match for my sister than you sir"



Question 3: Interviewer (to a student girl candidate) - What is one morning you woke up & found that you were pregnant.



Girl - I will be very excited and take an off, to celebrate with my husband.



Normally an unmarried girl will be shocked to hear this, but she managed it well. Why I should think it in the wrong way, she said later when asked



Question 4: Interviewer: He ordered a cup of coffee for the candidate. Coffee arrived kept before the candidate, then he asked what is before you?


Candidate: Instantly replied "Tea"



He got selected.



You know how and why did he say "TEA" when he knows very well that coffee was kept before.



(Answer: The question was "What is before you (U - alphabet)

Reply was "TEA" ( T - alphabet)



Alphabet "T" was before Alphabet "U"



Question 5: Where Lord Rama would have celebrated his "First Diwali"? People will start thinking of Ayodya, Mitila [Janaki's place], Lanka etc...



But the logic is, Diwali was a celebrated as a mark of Lord Krishna Killing Narakasura . In Dusavataar, Krishnavathaar comes after Raamavathaar.



So, Lord Rama would not have celebrated the Diwali At all!



Question 6: The interviewer asked to the candidate "This is your last question of the interview. Please tell me the exact position of the center of this table where u have kept your files."


Candidate confidently put one of his finger at some point at the table and told that this was the central point at the table. Interviewer asked how did u get to know that this being the central point of this table, then he answers quickly that sir u r not likely to ask any more question, as it was the last question that u promised to ask.....


And hence, he was selected as because of his quick-wittedness. .........





This is What Interviewer expects from the Interviewee. ....

Traditional day at Infosys

Here is a snapshot from the traditional day celebrations at Infosys mangalore campus. Discovered from my mail box.

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Bingo, Poker, Slot games

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Thursday, December 18, 2008